Why I would be a fugitive due to kidnapping

Here is the email that I got from SIL’s caseworker in NV. Keep in my mind that when the caseworker originally talked to me, she stated that the kids were going to be placed in a pre-adoptive home and CPS would be pursuing termination of parental rights.

Hi Rebecca,

[SIL, name removed]communicated she has been taking her medication daily for a month. However, I have not observed major significant behavior change. Except that [SIL] has stopped calling and leaving me numerous messages on a daily basis. That has subsided greatly. The medication may take some time to work. DFS will need progress letters from her psychologist and psychiatrist reporting she has demonstrated behavior change and is mentally capable/stable of caring for her children. I’ve requested medical records this week. Due to confidentiality, I will not be able share that with you. She appears to be doing better and has completed three parenting classes. Parenting is taken on a weekly basis or she would have already been done. She enrolled in additional parenting classes and expressed to the team that she is willing and open to learning to be a better a parent. She also mentioned that she lacked parenting skills and would like more help learning how to play and interact with her children. She continuous to make slow progress. She visits with the children at our visitation center twice a week and is consistent and appropriate. [S, 26 month old niece] was assessed by a therapist with Early child Hood Services and will begin receiving weekly therapy to address her speech, possible hearing impairment and development. Overall, [SIL] has been cooperative and compliant with our Department. She only needs to complete parenting classes and address her mental health. Her housing and income stability is not an issue. If she is able to address her mental health, which she is reportedly doing, the children will likely reunify with her. However, everything is a process and it is fairly still early in the case. We still have trial set for this 8-30 since she denied the Petition. Please tell me you and your husband are still a placement option?

I just love that she has the nerve to ask if we still want to be considered for placement *rolling my eyes*. We wanted to be considered as a PERMANENT placement for our niece and nephew-not another temporary placement until CPS decides to give them back to mentally ill, neglectful, unstable parent.

Apparently CPS there does not care that SIL has a pattern of this behavior-she only skipped out of CA to get CPS off her ass in that state. Sure, she went to the parenting classes ordered by CA’s CPS but she never truly believed that she needed them. I’ve told them of her pattern of erratic behavior over the past 2 years, including wanting to give the kids to us many times. Oh, and let’s not forget the death threats against family members and the continued paranoia that she voices to me….or that she wants to SKIP THE COUNTRY with these kids. Oh, and how exactly does a person who only receives a disability check get $3000 all of a sudden to hire a lawyer? I guess no one even bothered to question her about that one.

I think my favorite line of the email is “Her housing and income stability is not an issue.” Great to know that a woman who has not live in one single place for more than 4-5 months over the past 2 years is considered stable as far as housing. Back when I was a CPS worker in another state, a parent actually had to show that he/she was living in a stable environment for 6 months before getting their kids back. Good to know that packing up the kids and moving them every few months (because the people there are trying to steal your stuff/kill your kids/the FBI found you) to a new short term apartment, motel or sober house is ok.

I’m fucking fed up and I am incredibly sad for those kids. Does CPS actually think that SIL will keep up with all of S’s appointments related to her speech issue/possible hearing impairment? Do they honestly think that she will continue to take medication and see a mental health person after she gets those kids back? Hell no she won’t, she’ll skip town just like she did in CA. And before anyone asks why we arent pursuing custody on our own, I looked into that and unfortunately it seems that you have ot be a resident of NV to do that in NV.

So, please all of my blogger friends/Twitter friends/new friends/IRL friends pray to whatever God/deity that you believe in that these kids are safe and stable. If you don’t pray, then please send some healing vibes to them. They will need all the help that they can get.



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8 responses to “Why I would be a fugitive due to kidnapping

  1. I’m sitting here eating ice cream and pancakes while I read your blog. So if I had that kind of news I think that’s just what I would do – eat my frustration!!

    Seriously. I would be so mad. AAAh. Screaming is also good.

    But since I have just spent the day at a level two EFT training, maybe the best is to say “Even though I seriously want to kidnap those kids, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even thouh I am so angry about what the red tape has done here, I’m choosing to send them love and safety.”

    (find out more about EFT on my site here: http://healwithheather.com/eft.htm)

    I will also pray. Not just for them but also for you.

    Much love

  2. So basically they’ve decided to let them get older and more screwed up from their situation before they decide to inevitably terminate parental rights later on. Aces. So f***ed up. I am so sorry Becca.

  3. emily511

    Definite prayers. My heart goes out to those children and that one day CPS will see that they deserve a loving, stable home- which they will never get with their biological mother.

  4. mrscoffeejunkie

    I can’t get over how CPS things that because she’s going through the motions, that she’s deemed a safe parent. Just because she’s doing what she is supposed to do now, does not mean that the minute she has them back that she won’t snap back into her psychopathic ways.

    Lots and lots of prayers go out to those precious innocent little ones. I pray that God lays a protective hand over them, and guides them into safety. ❤ Prayers are with you too, Becca.

    This really is just so sad, and my heart breaks for you and those little ones.

  5. Beth Ann

    And people wonder why I am against domestic adoption.

    I am so sad for you Becca. This is the worst possible outcome.

    Lots of Hugs, Love and Good thoughts!

  6. I am sorry that CPS is being that way. It’s obvious that she is just “acting” and I believe that you are right – she’ll get them back and skip out again.

    I really hope for those kids sake she does not get them back.

  7. I’ve never heard a CPS story in any state that wasn’t totally awful and screwed up. So sorry for you and the kids.

  8. MamaTrish

    What a rotten mess! My heart aches for you and for the children! Praying this situation will still work out and you get those kiddos!

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