P and I have discussed our views on parenthood for years, one silver lining of infertility. One thing that we have firmly 100% decided is that we will not lose “us” once we become parents. Yes, we will make sure that our children’s needs are completely met but we still need to remain a couple within our family. For me, I believe that a strong happy marriage is the most important part of being parents. If we aren’t strong as a married couple then I don’t see how we can be strong parents to our kids. (I am only talking about OUR marriage, not anyone else’s.)
We talked the other night about ways that we will stay us once we become parents. First and foremost, we will continue to have dates. It might not be every week that we go out on a date but we will do it a few times per month. We will also do our “staying up late watching movies” thing on the weekends after the children go to sleep. For us, dating and us time has always been important. It’s even more important to us once we become parents.
We also plan to take our kids out with us to places that we enjoy. We envision taking them to BWW for lunch/dinner, hiking in the mountains and to the movies (age appropriate ones). In fact, I cannot wait to take them with us to do many of things that we enjoy. I imagine us walking about Manitou Springs with strollers and 2-4 kids with us, enjoying eating, drinking and shopping.
I also want to take them to concerts 🙂 I don’t mean any crazy out of control concerts but definitely want to take them to some. I remember seeing children at the Lilith Fair show and thinking “I can’t wait to be that mom.” I want to share my love of live music with them and even with future grandchildren.
So what do you do (or plan to do) to stay a couple while still being parents? Please share 🙂