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Why I would be a fugitive due to kidnapping

Here is the email that I got from SIL’s caseworker in NV. Keep in my mind that when the caseworker originally talked to me, she stated that the kids were going to be placed in a pre-adoptive home and CPS would be pursuing termination of parental rights.

Hi Rebecca,

[SIL, name removed]communicated she has been taking her medication daily for a month. However, I have not observed major significant behavior change. Except that [SIL] has stopped calling and leaving me numerous messages on a daily basis. That has subsided greatly. The medication may take some time to work. DFS will need progress letters from her psychologist and psychiatrist reporting she has demonstrated behavior change and is mentally capable/stable of caring for her children. I’ve requested medical records this week. Due to confidentiality, I will not be able share that with you. She appears to be doing better and has completed three parenting classes. Parenting is taken on a weekly basis or she would have already been done. She enrolled in additional parenting classes and expressed to the team that she is willing and open to learning to be a better a parent. She also mentioned that she lacked parenting skills and would like more help learning how to play and interact with her children. She continuous to make slow progress. She visits with the children at our visitation center twice a week and is consistent and appropriate. [S, 26 month old niece] was assessed by a therapist with Early child Hood Services and will begin receiving weekly therapy to address her speech, possible hearing impairment and development. Overall, [SIL] has been cooperative and compliant with our Department. She only needs to complete parenting classes and address her mental health. Her housing and income stability is not an issue. If she is able to address her mental health, which she is reportedly doing, the children will likely reunify with her. However, everything is a process and it is fairly still early in the case. We still have trial set for this 8-30 since she denied the Petition. Please tell me you and your husband are still a placement option?

I just love that she has the nerve to ask if we still want to be considered for placement *rolling my eyes*. We wanted to be considered as a PERMANENT placement for our niece and nephew-not another temporary placement until CPS decides to give them back to mentally ill, neglectful, unstable parent.

Apparently CPS there does not care that SIL has a pattern of this behavior-she only skipped out of CA to get CPS off her ass in that state. Sure, she went to the parenting classes ordered by CA’s CPS but she never truly believed that she needed them. I’ve told them of her pattern of erratic behavior over the past 2 years, including wanting to give the kids to us many times. Oh, and let’s not forget the death threats against family members and the continued paranoia that she voices to me….or that she wants to SKIP THE COUNTRY with these kids. Oh, and how exactly does a person who only receives a disability check get $3000 all of a sudden to hire a lawyer? I guess no one even bothered to question her about that one.

I think my favorite line of the email is “Her housing and income stability is not an issue.” Great to know that a woman who has not live in one single place for more than 4-5 months over the past 2 years is considered stable as far as housing. Back when I was a CPS worker in another state, a parent actually had to show that he/she was living in a stable environment for 6 months before getting their kids back. Good to know that packing up the kids and moving them every few months (because the people there are trying to steal your stuff/kill your kids/the FBI found you) to a new short term apartment, motel or sober house is ok.

I’m fucking fed up and I am incredibly sad for those kids. Does CPS actually think that SIL will keep up with all of S’s appointments related to her speech issue/possible hearing impairment? Do they honestly think that she will continue to take medication and see a mental health person after she gets those kids back? Hell no she won’t, she’ll skip town just like she did in CA. And before anyone asks why we arent pursuing custody on our own, I looked into that and unfortunately it seems that you have ot be a resident of NV to do that in NV.

So, please all of my blogger friends/Twitter friends/new friends/IRL friends pray to whatever God/deity that you believe in that these kids are safe and stable. If you don’t pray, then please send some healing vibes to them. They will need all the help that they can get.



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maybe baby

Ok, we are not pregnant-mother nature confirmed that today. However, an interesting thing has happened and we might be getting a baby next month. Might, I am trying not to get hopes up just yet. In fact I won’t get my hopes up until I have the legal papers in my hands. I am allowing myself to do some preliminary planning, though like looknig for a daycare, calling JAG about what papers are needed to get the baby on DEERs, etc. At guess at this point y’all might want an explanantion…..

My hubby, P, has a sister, R, who has some mental health and substance abuse issues. Last year she gave birth to a precious baby girl named S. Well R has no decided that she cannot care for baby S and she wants us to take full custody of her. She called P who is currently in GA and told him. How did P tell me you ask? Well he had called me about 5 times yesterday. He called me back the 6th time and said “Oh, I forgot to tell you. R wants us to take her baby.” WHAT? Yeah, he was so nonchalant about it, like someone was asking us to take their puppy. I of course agreed to it and P reminded me that we would still continue on our pregnancy quest even if we actually got baby S-well duh, yes we will continue. I want to be pregnant with my husband’s child.

Anyway, after lots of texting between R and me yesterday, she let me know that she would be flying into New Orleans on May 24th in the evening. That actually works out well because P will be on block leave and P’s father will be in town visiting us. I am also off work the next day b/c it’s Memorial Day. I am thinking that we will drive to New Orleans Saturday morning, hang out and see the city (I’ve been there a few times, P and his dad haven’t), get the baby on Sunday evening and then drive back home Sunday night.

Even though she has a flight booked I am not getting my hopes up. Seriously, she could change her mind at any second but I am praying like crazy that she doesn’t. My boss thinks that we should go ahead and start a baby registry and I am considering doing that. My Army wife message board friends are already offering baby clothes, toys and supplies which is awesome. I seriously have some fantabulous friends. I feel like if I start planning too much I will jinx it and she will change her mind. Now I have an inkling of what it feels like to be an adoptive parent waiting for the birth mom to have the baby and sign away rights….nerve racking to say the least.

So here I wait for the next 39 days, hoping and praying that it all goes smoothly and she doesn’t change her mind. Yeah, I don’t think that I’ll be sticking to my challenge of not drinking at all until P gets home. Waiting requires at least a little wine.


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