I want to start Mommy Mondays on this blog, in an effort to blog regularly again and in an effort to reconnect with my blogging friends 🙂
Having recently become a Mommy via guardianship of the sis in law’s kids, I have a full appreciation of how difficult parenting is…especially when doing it alone (P won’t be back until the summer). I love the children and the bonding is going MUCH better but wow, there are definite challenges. On Mommy Mondays I want to focus on all things relating to parenting. I am thinking that I will
obsess write about one parenting “thing” (sorry, I am too exhausted to think of a better word) per week on here. If there’s ever anything that you want to see me write about or that you just think would be a good topic, please comment on any post and let me know 🙂
I want to share a bit about the bonding/attaching that we’ve been working on here in our home. As y’all might remember things were rough here in the beginning. I am happy to report that things are MUCH better around here, I think due in a major way to my no longer being on the evil lu.pron. We have a night time routine now-15 to 30 minutes of cartoons while I make dinner; eat dinner; take baths; read a story and then bed time. That routine works 90% of the time, though sometimes SB (2.5 yr old niece) still has a meltdown when she gets in the bed. J (1 yr old nephew) rarely cries at bed time any more, unless he decides that he wants to stay up and play with the furbabies 🙂
SB is also seeking me out for hugs and sitting on my lap during Friday Night Family Movie and Pizza night. Her newest thing is to blow kisses to me or just come up to me for kisses ❤ She also runs to me when I pick her up from preschool saying “Mommy hug”….yeah, she’s a charmer 🙂 J’s face lights up when I come into his classroom and he immediately wants me to pick him up. He has also started having baby nightmares which is awful but he *does* calm down when I comfort him.
For the past couple of weekends, we haven’t really done anything fun because I have had IVF appointments, which for me are 2.5 hrs of driving round trip. This coming weekend I have decided that we will go shoe shopping for all 3 of us, walk around the mall a bit and then go see my friend, S, at BWW on her lunch shift 🙂 We are also going to go to church which is sure to be an adventure 😉
So what to you do to promote bonding/attachment in your children?
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the future and what I want for P, me and for our future children. Some of this has been brought on by the past few weeks of seeing and hearing all this hate towards Muslims on the media and on social networks. Some of it has been brewing in my head and heart for a while.
If you’re read my About Me page then you know that I am liberal, very liberal. I was not always liberal. I grew up very conservative, in a very conservative household. At some point I realized that I was not being true to myself and my heart. Over the years, I have definitely found myself and figured out my values. I want to pass those values on to my children and to others.
I want to raise our children to be accepting of others. I want them to know the world and people from other religions and cultures. I want them to love other people and accept other people, even when those people are vastly different from them. I want them to see the world as a place to explore, learn and love. I want them to make determinations about people based on people’s actions, not on their race, religion, appearance, etc.
I’ve been thinking lately about making a career change. I have felt a pull toward the non-profit sector and/or education. I’ve started looking into opening an in home daycare/preschool. I love children and have always loved working with children. I want to teach them about the things that I value and love while educating them and preparing them for school. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to turn them into little autobots who are exactly like me. I want them to learn how to think for themselves. I want them to be able to find themselves at a younger age than I did. I want to encourage them to find their own interests and loves.
I want to make the world a better, gentler, more accepting place, one child at a time.
I’m sick. For the love of everything good, if it’s not side effects from fertility drugs it’s something else. I have a stomach virus with a low grade fever…I feel like a train hit me. It’s 73 degrees and humid and I am sitting around in a sweatshirt. I really hope that I feel better before the end of the weekend so that I can make this fertility boosting quiche from mommyland.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what kind of mommy I want to be and what kind of birth I want. I like the idea of a homebirth but with our zoo of animals I think that it would be more stressful for me b/c I know that at least one of my dogs would be trying to get into the birthing pool with me. I do know that I want NO drugs at all and would prefer a birthing center over a hospital. I want the process to be as natural, stress free and organic as possible. Even if we get pregnant with twins, I want to try and have them naturally if at all possible. I don’t want lots of bright lights, loud talking strangers in the room. I want to hold our baby(ies) immediately after delivery, not 10-15 minutes after. I don’t want anyone to give formula to our baby(ies), I want to do my job and breastfeed. We will not be vaccinating according to the current vaccine schedule but will be doing them according to the vaccine schedule form the early 1980s. We will not spank.
I’m going to make my own baby food (organic when possible) and use cloth diapers and wipes. I will wear my baby(ies) is a sling when I have them and ideally will have them skin to skin with me when possible. I want to be a SAHM (stay at home mom) but that is just not at all financially possible so I will carefully choose a daycare provider for them and will find a job that doesn’t require me to regularly work overtime. Ideally I’d like to work in a school system so that I would have summers and other holidays off to spend with my family.
We will introduce our furbabies and skin baby(ies) as soon as possible. We will not be one of those couples that tosses aside our furbabies when we have finally have skin babies. People who do that infuriate me. Our furbabies are part of our family and have gotten me through countless BFNs and most recently a failed IUI. We already know that 3 of our 4 dogs are good with babies (Bear, the coonhound, just hasn’t been around babies yet) and our cats are good too. We will teach our children how to treat and not to treat animals so that they hopefully will grow up to love them as we do.
That’s all I have right now but I know that I’ll have more when we finally get knocked up. I guess one of the positives of taking so long to get pregnant is that we have had PLENTY of time to discuss this matters and agree on them.